For Hopeless Romantics

 

…including me.

 

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L O V E!

A good relationship is not a game that we play or an ego trip we take. It is about love and two people. Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know but it can also hurt us more that we can ever believe. If we love someone we should be ready to experience not only happiness but heartache as well. That’s the reward and risk that it takes. Unless we are willing to experience it, we will never really know what it’s like to love and be loved.

Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a person can ever have.  And there is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone.  It’s the difference between a love that’s fickle, wild and short-lived and a love that’s tender, passionate and lasting.  The first is easy.  The second, the one that really matters to us all, takes work —- because it’s about keeping the relationship.

Loving someone takes efforts. We have to be able to communicate with each other. Nobody can read anyone else’s mind. We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel. Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense each other’s thoughts but it’s never perfect and it takes time to develop.

Getting the chance to love and be loved by someone is a blessing.  Respect him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be   No one is perfect.  It’s true love that closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth surface of acceptance for each other.  True love sees and accepts a person for who he/she is.  It is also true love that makes a person change for the better.

Although the power of true love is undeniable, a relationship needs commitment too.  What is love without commitment from each other anyway?  It’s like principles and values.  Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand for them.  The same goes for our commitments to relationships and to the person we love.

"Love is like an antique vase.  It’s hard to find, hard to get, yet easy to break."

Everyday, everywhere…people fall in love. But just how many of these relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love? I know hundreds of friends who say the magical words "I love you"…but more often that not, the truth is just — I am IN love with you. There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone.

If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the present you. This kind of love is temporary and will only lasts as long as the fairytale lasts.  When fairy godmother comes in at night to whirl us back in reality, we see the heartache of such a relationship.

But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you unconditionally for who you are now, who you were you in the past and who you might be in the future. When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it, you have to ask yourself if you love him/her too or if you are only in love with the idea of being in love. It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking.

May you be blessed on your soul-mate searching journey.

Author Unknown

 

Have a lovely Friday everyone!

 

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"Love should not be a heavy feeling, it should not make you suffer" – Sharon Cuneta, P.S. I Love You (1981)

Bob Marley On How To Love A Woman

Ni-reblogged ko to kagabi mula sa ka-Tumblr kong si monch-austria.

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Bob Marley on how to love a woman.

You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? Shes not perfect – you arent either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So dont hurt her, dont change her, dont analyze and dont expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when shes not there.

– Bob Marley

OA na kung OA pero habang nagbabasa ako, di ko napigilan ang sarili ko na maluha at tuluyang napaiyak na nga nang tumama ang mata ko dito sa linya na to:

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart.

Hindi ko alam kung bakit napa-emote ako pero marahil dala lang ng matinding inip dahil hindi ako makabalik ng tulog kagabi. Pero shet, na kerid-away talaga ako ha! Buti na lang at nakahiga ako. Kung nakatayo ako na nagbabasa, malamang sa matinding emote ko ay napasandal ako sa dingding…nakakuyom ang kanang palad na nakatapat kaliwang dibdib… at dahan-dahang dumadausdos ang likod na napapaupo.

O ha! Siempre, with matching crayola slash hagulhol din yun. Hihihi! Magagaya ko kaya ang mga emote scenes ng mga teleserye sa acting-actingan ko?

Hmmn. . . makapag-power nap na nga muna! Antokyo japan na ang lola.

 

P.S.

Parang ang dumi ng kuko ni Bob Marley sa piktyur a. Haba pa ng kuko. Yak! Lol!

 

 

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“I can never hate the woman who made me smile again!” – Sam Milby; Babe, I Love You (2010)

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Mental Feng Shui

By: Anthony Robbins

Anthony Robbins or Tony Robbins (born February 29, 1960) is an American self-help writer, professional speaker and occasional actor. He became well known through the use of firewalking in his seminars. He initially studied Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) but went on to develop his own methods.

  • ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
  • TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
  • THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
  • FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you’, mean it.
  • FIVE. When you say, ‘I’m sorry’, look the person in the eye.
  • SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
  • SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
  • EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.
  • NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.
  • TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
  • ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
  • TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
  • THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’
  • FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
  • FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
  • SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
  • SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.
  • EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
  • NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it .
  • TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
  • TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.

Do not keep this message. Pass this around.

Yung Maganda Na Lang

Touch ako sa story na ‘to…

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large gathering. All of their friends and family came to witness the lovely ceremony and partake of the festivities and celebration. Everyone had a wonderful time.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife came to the husband with a proposal:

"I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage," she said. "Each of us will write a list of things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together." The husband agreed. So they retreated to two separate rooms and started making out their respective lists. And this absorbing task took them the rest of the day to accomplish.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided they would share each other’s listed annoyances. "I’ll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it, enough to fill three pages. As she started reading her list, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husband’s eyes.

"What’s wrong?" she asked.
"Nothing," the husband replied. "Please keep reading."

The wife continued until she had read all three pages. Then she placed her list neatly on the table and folded her hands on top of it. "Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists," she said with eager anticipation.

Quietly the husband said, "I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try changing anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

Awww! Kahanga-hanga naman si Mister. Kaka-inlab lalo.

Well, sa buhay nga naman, hindi man kagandahan ang lahat na nangyayari sa atinpero kelangan bang seryosuhin yun at i-emote ng bongga? Sows, bakt ba kasi kelangan pang pansinin ang mga chakaness (kapangitan) kesa kagandahan? Bakit ba kasi kelangan pang magbilangan ng mga kakulangan!

Ang lahat sa buhay ay masarap (parang ako. Hihihi!). Joke lang. Op kors, ang plastik ko naman kung sasabihin kong totoo yun.  Maalala ko, may mga times din na nasasabi sa akin ni Kups ang linyang, Life is unfair. Naiintindihan ko kung bakit minsan nakakapag-emote ng ganun ang lolo nyo.

Minsan kasi eh hindi maiwasan ni Kups ang ma-disappoint, ma-prostate ma-frustrate sa relasyon namin. Pareho kaming ilang beses na rin nainis at na-depress (uy, nag rhyme!) sa mga masamang pangyayari na para bang hindi justified, at sa tingin namindefinitely we don’t deserve. Pero haystama na nga muna ang maging bitter ocampo. Sayang ang oras.

Heniways, I want to close this post in positive note. I believe pa rin that we are the happiest when we see and praise the good and try our very best to forget the bad. Mas maigi na pansinin na lang ang mga magagandang bagayang mga magaganda na andiyan lang aktwali sa harap natin. Kaya naman, speaking of magaganda – pansinin nyo ko, titigan nyo ko! 😀 Syet!

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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didnt do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.

Explore.

Dream.

Discover.

Mark Twain

Para Mag-Imprub Ang Buhay Ko

Super-like ko yung previous post ko noong bago nag-end ang 2010…yung Make Each Day Special – 40 Tips.

Tips yun kung paano mo i-imprub ang buhay mo on how to make it better.

Iniisip ko nga, kung araw-araw siguro ay may masunod lang ako ng kahit 15 lang dun sa mga 40 tips abah, eh waging-wagi na ako.

Sa ngayon, eto pa lang ang nauumpisahan kong gawin, sundin at itatak sa bungo ko:

Sabi dun sa Tip #18. Life isnt fair, but its still good. – Korak! Mas pinaintindi pa sa akin ang kasabihan na yan nang mabasa ko tong nakasabit sa likod ng pintuan ng toilet ng Centennial Airport noong Sunday.

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Tama nga naman, minsan madaya talaga ang life, minsan hindi parehas ang trato sa atin. Pero hindi man kabonggahan ang mga bigay sa atin ng buhay eh dapat matuto tayo makuntento at magpasalamat sa kung ano meron tayo.

Naka-upo ako sa trono, nagwe-wewe nang kinunan ko ng pic ang naka-frame na yan. Mas gusto ko ang mga ganyan na nakasabit sa mga toilet kesa sa mga karatulang ang nakalagay lang ehPlease dont flush the papel in the toilet. Thank!

At sha nga pala, hindi ko to kinaya!

Alam nyo bang ganito ang tsura ng mga bagong toilet na pambabae dun sa Centennial Airport?

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Within You Is The Strength To Meet Life’s Challenges

Hindi na yata mauubusan ng pagsubok si Mamaru. Sa liit kong babae mantakin mong lagpas-height ko palagi ang problemang nakangudngod sa akin. Ilang semplang ba ang kailangan kong maranasan para makarating sa sinasabing finish line? Gaano karaming bali ng buto at pasa sa katawan ba ang kelangan kong gamutin at indahin para maging winner? Minsan nakatamad na bumangon sa pagkalugmok. Nahihiya na akong lumakad ng paika-ika at galit na galit na ako sa sarili ko dahil ginagawa ko ng hobby ang katangahan.

Kelan ko ba tatandaan lagi na hindi lahat ng tao ay mabubuti at may konsensya? Its true, evil men do exist.

Gayunpaman, nakasayad man ngayon sa lupa ang loob at tiwala ko sa sarili, kelangan ko ang bumangon at makipagsabayan ulit sa nakararami. Walang mangyayari sa akin kung maghihintay pa ako ng taong aalalay sa akin sa pagbangon. Nakakalungkot lang isipin na gaya ng nabanggit ko sa mga naunang post kominsan hindi naman natin kelangan ang deretsang tulong para sa solusyon ng problema natinminsan yung may makausap at makinig lang sapat na.

Smile and the world smiles with you. Cry and you cry alone.

Why Women Above 30 Are Better?

Obyusli, matagal na akong wala sa prime age ko.

Oo, wala na nga siguro ako sa kabataan ko pero hindi ko naman sinasabi din na nakaka-avail na ako ngayon ng 20% discount benefits ng mga Senior Citizen. Chooos naman…kahit papano eh medyo matagal-tagal pa siguro bago ako makagamit ng sariling Senior Citizen card ko noh! Hehe!

‘Lam nyo, maniwala kayo sa hindi…hindi ko masyado nami-miss ang kabataan ko.

Kasi pag nagmumuni-muni ako at nagpa-flashback ng nakaraan ko (insert any New Wave music here)…eh parang puro kalituhan lang ang nasa isip ko noon e. Ang klase ng pag iisip ko noon ay puro olats!

Paano ko naman mami-miss ang mga panahon na yun kung saan lahat yata ng ginagawa ko ay akala ko ay tama, tapos matatauhan na lang ako sa ending na joskopo! – ako pala talaga ang original na Lady GAGA! 🙁 Dahil nga nuknukan ako ng kagagahan noon!

Dami kong palpak sa mga diskarte ko noon! Hays..pag bata ka kasi, talagang eengot-engot ka at mapusok ka sa lahat.

Bilibit or not, mas enjoy ako nung tumuntong na ako ng 30 hanggang sa edad ko ngayon. Totoo pala talaga yung kasabihan na WISDOM comes with age. Habang ako ay tumatanders, napansin ko na ang dami na rin nabago sa akin. Mas lalo akong naging yummy at mas naging malandi! Joke! Wahaha!

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Did You Know

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Did you know that those who appear to be very strong in heart, are real weak and most susceptible?
Did you know that those who spend their time protecting others are the ones that really need someone to protect them?
Did you know that the three most difficult things to say are:
I love you, Sorry and Help me .

Did you know that those who dress in red are more confident in themselves?
Did you know that those who dress in yellow are   those that enjoy their beauty?
Did you know that those who dress in black, are those who want to be unnoticed and need your help and understanding?
Did you know that when you help someone, the help is returned in two folds?

Did you know that it’s easier to say what you feel in writing than saying it to someone in the face? But did you know that it has more value when you say it to their face?
Did you know that if you ask for something in faith, your wishes are granted?
Did you know that you can make your dreams come true, like falling in love, becoming rich, staying healthy, if you ask for it by faith, and if you really knew, you’d be surprised by what you could do.