Nami-miss ko na ang friendlalu kong si Moo aka DEFPOTEC.

Nami-miss din kaya ako ng chekwa na yun? Matagal ng nakatingga ang blog ni Moo. Bisi-bisihan na kasi sha sa shuta nya kaya di na makapag-blog. Maalala ko, mahilig mamigay ng regalo ‘tong si Moo noon. Abah siempre, galante sya sa mga special friends na kagaya ko lang. Naks! (Shhh! Ako lang ang maysabi na special ako.)

Kahit sa dati nyang gimik na Blogroll Award dun sa site nya, kung mapapansin nyo, ako lang ang binigyan nya ng special trophy (number 7) na ang design ay punong-puno ng aral, kapaki-pakinabang at malaki DAW ang maitutulong sa akin in case of emergency. Lol!

Heniweys, isa sa mga pinakagusto kong bigay sa akin noon ni Moo as token ng friendship namin ay ang 5 books of Francis J. Kong. Personal nyang inabot sa akin ‘to. (Apat lang na libro ang nasa picture kasi yung isa ay hindi pa isinasauli ng niece kong si Tweetums.)

Mula ng mabasa ko ang mga books na ‘to… naging tagahanga na ako ni Francis Kong. Kaya naman kahit dun sa blog ni Mr. Kong ay naka-subscribe din ako. Ang sarap kasi basahin ng books at ng inspirational blog nya. Gusto ko sya kasi magaan basahin sa mata (natural, mata! nagbabasa ba ang ilong?) ang style ng pagsulat nya.

Simple lang at hindi nakakalunod sa lalim ang gamit nyang english. Ayoko kasi yung mga tipo na dumudugo muna ang ilong at utak ko bago maintindihan ang mga sinusulat. I love his humor too. Sa galing at style ni Francis Kong,  releyt na releyt agad si Mamaru. Sana nga ay mabili ko yung iba pang books ni Francis Kong.

Share ko sa inyo ang latest blog entry nya na gustong-gusto ko. At talagang nakapagmuni-muni ako tungkol dito kanina.

Basahin.

THE STRENGTH TO ADMIT

Have you ever been wrong?

The expected answer is “Of course.”

And now comes the clincher. What do you do when you know you’re wrong?

In a talk I gave for my friends in the software industry, I prompted the prestigious audience and said, “You have to say the 3 most important words. What are they?”

And then my friend Ricky Gumaru of PMAP blurted out the 3 words, “It’s Your Fault!”

And I laughed like crazy.

Everyone wants to be right. Some people will do anything to be right, even if they’re wrong.

Why is it that being right is such a big thing with some people?

Can’t they be wrong? Can’t they be human?

Motivational speaker Brian Parsley says: “Here’s the big question: Who cares if you’re right? You teach your children from an early age to apologize when they’re wrong because it’s the right thing to do. Yet, as adults, you forget this basic principle.

I’ve seen adults make a scene in an office environment “defending their rightness.” I’m not implying you should back down from your principles, but most arguments are more about ego than facts.”

And Brian is right.

There are advantages in admitting you’re wrong.

1. Strength of character.

Only secure and confident people are strong enough to admit their mistakes. Insecure people insist on being right all the time. The moment they admit their mistakes and rectify it, they learn from it and their character is built.

2. Sterling reputation.

What is worth more than money? A good name. Even the Bible says that a good name is worth more than gold and silver. A damaged reputation can take years to build back if destroyed. People respect honest people who are big enough to admit their mistakes. It is a show of strength as the person exhibits a willingness to take responsibility for his actions.

3. Increased Respect.

There’s a misconception that if you tell people you made a mistake they won’t trust you anymore. The opposite is the reality. People will trust you more because they know you’re willing to tell the truth whether it’s in your favor or not.

So guess what? You messed up. And now that you know the advantages in admitting you are wrong what should you do?

Here are a few suggestions:

1. Admit your mistake and get over it.

The ability to admit you are mistaken is a great display of strength and character. But equally important is your ability to move on and overcome. When you try to cover it up with lame excuses or blaming others, you lose your credibility. If you make a mistake that impacts someone else in a less than favorable way, do both of you a favor by letting him or her know.

2. Give people permission.

Brian Parsley says: “Most people don’t admit their mistakes because of fear. They’re afraid they won’t be forgiven. If someone admits a mistake to you, let them know it’s okay. Share with them a mistake you’ve made in the past. This one act can give your relationship a bigger boost than years of no conflict. It shows you care and allows them to be human. If you don’t think you’re going to have a long-term relationship, still give them the dignity you would want back from someone if you admitted your mistake.” So be gracious. There are 2 certainties in life. No it’s not death and taxes.

The 2 certainties in life are these:

1. There is a God and

2. You are not Him so be gracious.

There is no such thing as a perfect person. There are only stupid people who pretend to be perfect. Do not trust them. They are charlatans. These people should be crucified on the cross. And so get real and face the fact that you will make mistakes. It’s all a part of growing as an individual. Many of my life’s most valuable lessons come from the mistakes I have committed. And even as I learn from my own mistakes I need to be alert and learn from the mistakes of others too. Not to spite them but to learn from them.

Life is too short. You just don’t have the time to make all the mistakes you can learn from. Smart people learn from their own mistakes.  Smarter people learn from the mistakes of others.

oOo

Kami dito sa bahay, halos araw-araw kaming nanonood ng DVD ngayon dahil mahigit 100 pcs. of DVD ang pinamana sa akin ng pogi kong friendlalu na si Moo. Hanep! Ang gaganda pa naman. Pirated man sya, keber! Magagandang kopya naman lahat at ang mga lyrics subtitles nya ay tama naman dun sa sinasabi nung nagsasalita.

Nakakawindang kasi yung ibang pirated dvds, imbes na maintindihan ko yung pinapanood ko at i-enjoy yung pelikula…sumasakit ulo ko kasi iba ang nakasulat na subtitles dun sa sinasabi. Nakngpekpek!

Nga pala, pinapasabi ni Moo dun sa maraming nyang fans, (mga tatlo at kalahati yata sila) eh on-leave daw muna sya sa blogging at bising-bisi ang lolo nyo sa pagpapayaman at gusto nya i-feel muna ng todo ang pagiging dakilang aliping-sagigilid ng corporate world. Pero sana bisitahin nyo pa rin ang DEFPOTEC kahit hindi updated.

Bukod sa gusto kong pasalamatan yung bading kong kapitbahay na nagpahiram ng gunting nya kahapon (nagbawas ako ng bangs ko), taos-puso rin akong nagpapasalamat sa YM friend kong si Roderick aka wow_kalabaw sa walang sawang pang i-spoil sa akin.

Naiwala ni Kevin ang 2Gb flash drive ko last year. At nagkataon may extrang 1GB flash drive si Roderick kaya give nya sa akin itetch:

Cute di ba? ‘La ako paki kung giveaway lang daw ‘to sa kanya.

Thank you din sa 100 pcs. of Green Tea kahit hindi ako nanghingi. Kitams! Labs na labs mo ko noh kahit bihira tayo mag-tsikahan sa YM? Amininnnn! Lols.

Di nga, maraming salamat talaga. Sa dinami-dami ng nakilala ko sa YM, isa ka sa dun sa lilimang tao na ni minsan ay hindi nagbago. Salamat sa respeto at sa pagmamahal mo sa akin bilang kaibigan. Mabuhey u!

Kaya naiisip ko na kaya mabili ang mga joke books, patok ang mga stand up comedy bars, at dinudumog ang mga palabas na comedy films sa mga sinehan kahit saksakan ng baduy ay dahil gusto talaga matawa ng mga tao.

Buti na lang ako eh madali akong ma-amuse sa mga simpleng bagay lang. Madali lang patawanin. Babaw nga eh. Ewan ko ba, andun tuloy na parang nagiging ugali ko na matagal sumeryoso at mas madali kong nalalagyan agad ng kalokohan ang mga bagay-bagay.

Pero hindi naman mahirap maghanap ng katatawanan a. Madami diyan sa tabi tabi lang. Sa mga forwarded funny emails nga lang eh madami na. Sabi nga, anyone with a good sense of humor will find something funny in every situation he’s in.

Hindi naman sa pangmamaliit dahil ako man ay madalas na engot din, but don’t we often get a good laugh also from the typographical errors we chance at everywhere we go? Gaya na lang ng mga signs sa mga tindahan na, “Sorry We’re Close”, “Hamburger Bans” o kaya “Caution: Material’s Made of Cartoon”.

Kaya nga kahit na nilait, marami din naman nabigyan ng kasiyahan si Janina San Miguel dun sa pagsagot nya sa Bb. Pilipinas contest. Pucha! Di ba dapat nga pasalamat pa tayo kay Janina kasi binigyan nya tayo ng mga 10 minutes laughter? At libre yun ha! Hindi na tayo gumastos.

Minsan may kras si Moo na taga DHL, eh maganda daw kaya bait-baitan ang mokong at gustong magpa-cute kaya nagpadala sya ng “something” dun sa chickiebabe. Well, nagpasalamat naman ang tsiks at nag text sa kanya ng parang ganito: “Sir, thank you very much sa binigay mong kitchain…blah blah blah” Wahihi! O di ba, imbes na madismaya dun sa word na “kitchain” ay dapat ay tumawa na lang tayo?

Of course, we should laugh at ourselves too. Aminin na natin, we take pleasure from other people’s mistakes, slip-ups and shortcomings. Pero dapat matuto din tayong matawa sa sarili natin. We can’t deny it, nagkakamali din tayo sapagkat tayo ay magagandang tao lamang. We can’t be perfect tho we hate being in a bad situation. But see, all we really have to do to feel better is to LAUGH.

Nakakabuti nga raw sa katawan ang laughter sa araw-araw. Nakakagaan ng dibdib at nagpapaganda sa disposisyon sa buhay. Nakakapagpabata pa. (Ahem!) Lols!. Magandang workout of energy building nga ang laughter.

So, 10 minutes.

Good, hearty laughter 10 minutes a day.

Ayus na yun! Don’t be shy. Let go. Laugh your heart out!